This Stays Between Us

My pledge to you: complete anonymity upon request.

I’m going to be perfectly frank with you right now and admit that I have no idea what I’m doing. Not a fucking clue. Over the last couple of months I have spent a lot of time doing research, talking to people, sending e-mails, and generally being an advocate for veterans, especially those with quinism.

There’s no course I’m aware of that teaches quinism advocacy, at least not yet, and there is no manual or job description. I’m literally making this up as I go along, doing this on the fly, walking on a tightrope without a net, pick your idiom.

Yet, somehow, there have been successes. Nothing huge, but one at a time, veterans and their families are starting to hear the message. If I have helped to save even one life, then it will have been worth it, and the prospect of being able to help another vet or their family is what keeps me going.

This is a learning process for me, so please be patient while I get my collective shit together. One of the things that I have managed to figured out is that I am some kind of a hybrid of advocate and investigative journalist. In either position, confidentiality is sacrosanct, as is being able to establish a sense of trust.

So, I’m going to lay out for you what you can expect from me if you should decide to contact me about anything, and vice versa.

  1. I will respect any request for confidentiality, and will change the names of the people involved, as well as conceal their locations.
  2. I will not publish specific information about children.
  3. It works best if you can be frank and open with me, but if there is anything you would NOT like me to write about, let me know and I won’t go there.
  4. I will send you a copy of the story before I publish it, enabling you to have the final say about what goes in it.
  5. If you tell me something that makes me believe that your life or the lives of others are in danger, I will alert the appropriate authorities immediately.
  6. I will respect the journalistic ethos of confidentiality for all sources.

The rules apply to ANYONE and EVERYONE who contacts me regardless of the topic. Also don’t tell me about any unsolved crimes that you may have been a party to, I don’t need that kind of a headache in my life.

If you are a veteran, or the spouse, child, parent, relative of, or friend of one feel free to send me an email at If you need help, I’ll connect you with the people and organizations that can help you. If you ever just need to vent, you can do that, and if you would like me to tell your story I’ll do that too.

I’m in this with you.